Before we go through this, it doesn’t matter if you identify as a submissive, dominant, or even a switch, we are highly recommending that you do read the responsibilities on being a dominant, as we explain on that page that the responsibilities of each role go hand in hand with determining the expectations of each role.
There’s a lot of information out there on BDSM and BDSM relationships, and it can often be a mine field in terms of information overload. The important thing to remember is that when it comes to BDSM and relationships, it is what you make of it yourself. There’s no one single type of relationship, and even if you’re into the same type of play as another couple, such as chastity play, there might be different rules, expectations and levels of play between the couples. It might be a lifestyle choice for you, it might be something that you do on the weekend or it might be something that you only do every now and then. Kink is something that comes into play in a lot of relationships, you might think that you have a sexually inexperienced female partner, only to discover that it’s all some form of act. They might be exceptionally kinky and simply waiting for the opportunity to come out. Whatever the thing is that you have, so long as you and your sexual partner are happy then that is the most important thing when it comes to a BDAM relationship. It’s about exploring your kinks and your sexual desires, and it’s about growth between you and your partner. So whatever you read beyond that, stick to what you love, what feels right and what it is that feels natural for you.